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    Kiso - You know, now that I really think about it, you have a point about how having a high sex drive isn't really a vice for me, but it is frustrating when I'm in the mood and can't indulge due to whatever circumstances prevent me from indulging. I'm definitely not ashamed or guilty about admitting I have a much higher sex drive than before, and I don't see it as anything taboo or immoral...

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    I used to be able to eat a LOT of food at once and nothing could stop me. I once ate an entire family-sized lasagna all by myself (took a 2 hour food-coma nap afterwards but i did it).
    My stomach is not what it used to be, though. But my brain doesn't seem to understand that :v I have an awful habit now of buying way more food than I can handle while I'm hungry, then only finishing half of it. It's become an issue for me now; My judgement in how much I can eat is seriously flawed and I need to improve on my self-control.

    I do also tend to pick/bite at my lips a LOT, especially in winter. I've tried chapstick but it's no match for my awful compulsiveness; It always ends up being licked off after 5 minutes. Trying to stop but it's a nervous habit!
    Same thing with picking at my skin and existing wounds. It takes absolutely forever for small cuts and stuff to heal on me because I always pick at them. If I don't, I feel dirty and anxious and I hate it. I always end up with small scars all over my body because of it.
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    Food, especially comfort foods.
    alcohol, though I've gradually learned and started acting better (more in moderation)
    blankets, coffee mugs (love collecting these things).
    Cuddling and losing all motivation to do anything lately.
    Since the holidays I've had a sweeter tooth than usual.

    Self harm

    Anxiety has been killing my potential for happiness though. Just stuck in the past, stressing about the future, feeling a lack of motivation and believing I see no motivation or ambition already in my partner. I want to have a life again. I want my own place, I don't know what he wants, I don't even know if we're compatible enough for something long term, but he's so confident that we are.
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    I guess my biggest vice, as we usually think of them, would be my sweet tooth. I have a great fondness for sugary things, and a hard time resisting the opportunity to chow down on them. It's more of a problem when I live by myself and have access to cheap ice cream... though I did find a kind that look good, but has very little sugar and a lot of fiber.

    I don't really indulge in drugs/sex/rock 'n' roll though (I can't stand the taste of alcohol or coffee); I've always thought of my main vice as being distractibility. It's what keeps me from focusing on writing, and doing some of the other things I used to do. In a way, I guess you could call it a vice for social media. For instance, I'll frequently check Reddit, even though I know I shouldn't, because it's quick, easy, and requires little commitment.

    I'm not exactly sure why I do it. It might be anxiety related. If there's no real social interaction, you can't get burned.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Somnia View Post
    Kiso - You know, now that I really think about it, you have a point about how having a high sex drive isn't really a vice for me, but it is frustrating when I'm in the mood and can't indulge due to whatever circumstances prevent me from indulging. I'm definitely not ashamed or guilty about admitting I have a much higher sex drive than before, and I don't see it as anything taboo or immoral...
    Do you have methods to relieve yourself on your own? As a virgin I cannot attest to the difference, but it helps me knowing I need no one to ditch the itch, particularly when people I do not want to think about come to mind. It also means associating with the applicable sex or indeed mates does not immediately turn intimate where it should not. I only bring this up because some folks just stop doing that and it only leads to public awkwardness if you have high sex drive.

    Another vice, (I am doing it as a fucking type, hence the fact it is a fidget behavior) is fiddle with the seams of my jeans. Many have holes done by my hands. I would rather chew holes in them than this, but my teeth are not up to the task.
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    I have/had a vice, but I'm not at liberty to discuss it too openly, lest people jump down my throat. It's not a thing you should ever try at home (or elsewhere). It has, over time, involved bodies of water, belts, razor blades, poisons of varying potency, and carbon monoxide. Obviously, it never worked. Obviously, I gave up eventually. Beyond that I have nothing I could conscientiously call a ‘vice’ sincerely.
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    RedShadow - Oh yes, I certainly do have my methods for "relieving" myself on my own. But it only satisfies me for a short while. What I need the most is the emotional, physical, and spiritual connection with another person. It feels better and much more satisfying to me when I'm with someone in person vs. self-pleasure. Not everyone is like that though, and I know there are a lot of people who are fine taking care of "business" on their own, but for me, I like having the connection with an actual person. ;P

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    Quote Originally Posted by Somnia View Post
    RedShadow - Oh yes, I certainly do have my methods for "relieving" myself on my own. But it only satisfies me for a short while. What I need the most is the emotional, physical, and spiritual connection with another person. It feels better and much more satisfying to me when I'm with someone in person vs. self-pleasure. Not everyone is like that though, and I know there are a lot of people who are fine taking care of "business" on their own, but for me, I like having the connection with an actual person. ;P
    That....also can be my issues as well. High (or even medium) sex drive isn't necessarily a vice in-and-of-itself (much like drinking or cannabis or whatever) but it can lead to other issues if not taken care of. Marital frustration, infidelity (which is different than in an open relationship), and in my case a decent porn addiction. I thought that was a ridiculous thing but looking back, yep it happened! Just like with other vices it took effort and acknowledgement to break. Which is good, but I still get sexually frustrated at times when someone else isn't trying very hard! Grrrr

    As for my main vice, that would be beer. I love craft beer and it can be come a habit for me. Also helps as it seems to be a form of self medication. But not very good for my liver or waistline. So I have been working on that slowly....I know I can't continue to drink as I used to indefinitely so am trying to limit to weekend and maybe even more from there. Was doing decent until the holidays now trying to reset again. The good part, like with Somnia, I become more of a lightweight when I moderate!
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