View Full Version : You Do Not Have to Post An Introduction

October 6th, 2009, 08:59 AM
This is primarily a message for the newcomers to this forum, but as always, anyone is welcome to read.

When you or anyone else comes and signs up on Werelist, it is mandatory to read the rules of the site so that this remains a safe and friendly environment for all to express their opinions and share their personal experiences. However, what is certainly not required is to post an introduction, especially not the first day that you set foot in the site.

This is not to say that you can not or should not post an introduction on your first day if you feel comfortable doing so; no one here is going to bite your head off if you decide to do just that. However, new members, please be aware that you will not be chastised for lurking a little while, getting a feel for the forum and the general atmosphere, posting replies to other threads, or even reviewing the introduction posts that others have written, before you decide to make your "formal" debut with your introductory thread. This may not be the case on other forums, but it is on Werelist.

Some new members may not be quite so adept at putting their thoughts together in order, or may feel at a loss for what to say. Anuolf, another staff member, was kind enough to post a thoughtful questionnaire here (http://www.werelist.net/forums/showpost.php?p=11891&postcount=2), which you do not need to use, it is simply a resource that is free to use if you are so inclined. It is there to give an idea of some of the most frequently asked questions in the therian community. Questioning from other members is to be expected, at least by default, but please note that we are not attempting to "grill" you or anyone else - it is hoped that such questioning is meant to help you look at yourself and think about something you may not have, and in the end, help you. If you are not quite comfortable answering more questions just yet, you may note that in your post and the majority of members here will respect that.

I cannot emphasize this enough, however: "I don't know" is a perfectly acceptable answer. No one is going to know everything there is to know about therianthropy; some people can immediately answer questions about their experiences, some take a little while, and some may never find out. It is okay: if you do not know, you just don't know. If you find out later that you can answer that question, maybe a year later, or an hour later, then you can always go back and edit it.

By no means, however, is an introduction thread meant to be a lifelong commitment to this site; members come and go on Werelist all the time. You are free to post an introduction, and take a leave of absence, or you may decide that this site was not the right place for you. That is fine and dandy if it is what you are most comfortable with. Nobody is going to hunt you down. All of the staff and members here have lives outside of the internet, so we will understand completely if your offline life gets in the way of your time spent in the online community.

Finally, Werelist is a place for the community to support the individual, and for the individual to support the community. No one is going to be able to give you all of the answers about your personal experiences except yourself. Werelist offers a safe haven and a support network for therians and otherkin to express themselves and share their experiences, but it is not a place to seek a guru or teacher. If anyone ever claims that they have all the answers, you are well-advised to run in the other direction.

This has been a community service announcement. Thank you.